The Holiday Talk
The holiday season is upon us once again and that means spending time and making memories with family and friends. It is also a very good time to check in with your aging senior and hold a family discussion around whether they may be ready for independent living or assisted living in Arizona. While it might not be time to move right away, having the discussion in advance will make it easier when the time does come.
At VIP Senior Placement, we realize an honest, open discussion about this subject may not be easy on families. As we age, it becomes more difficult to admit when we need help or to talk about down-sizing from home and relocating to assisted living. The connection of families from across the miles at this time of year can set a warm tone and make this important conversation a little easier.
Here are a few tips to keep in mind:
- Follow their lead and listen carefully to what is important to them as they express their perceived care needs.
- Regardless of your past relationship with them, respect their position and take it slow.
- Be prepared to provide some information about some local care options. This will help put your loved ones at ease.
- Involve as many family members as possible to help support this important conversation.
Senior living services can make life easier for everyone involved and meet the changing demands of your aging loved one. There are several quality senior living communities that offer 24/7 care in Scottsdale, Mesa, Phoenix and the surrounding areas. There’s no reason to wait. Learn the options available to you today, in advance of “the event” that makes this conversation not only more difficult, but mandatory.
Contact a VIP Senior Placement Advisor to help you determine the best options for your aging senior.
Talk About Assisted Living
Convincing an elderly friend or loved one to “get help” or move from the comfort of their home due to a recent health crisis or on-going medical condition, can be quite the challenge. It’s not easy for any of us to admit when we are unable to care for ourselves. As a family member trying to find assisted living in the local market, you can be overwhelmed quickly with the task of finding the best solution on your own. Without some professional assistance, this can be a stressful, time consuming chore. Add the dynamic of medical condition, urgency, other family members being involved, etc. and you have a recipe for an ill-guided decision.
At VIP Senior Placement, we are a part of the solution. We help you navigate the best care options available in the local market place, based on your specific needs. Our personal approach to placement in Arizona has resulted in 100’s of families safely and successfully moving a loved one to assisted living, independent living or memory care.
What about Assisted Living?
An Assisted Living option is usually best suited for those who are challenged by daily activities such as bathing, dressing, making meals and taking medications on time. They offer semi-private and private apartment-style rooms, that vary in size and price.
Most Assisted Living Facilities offer
- Assistance with personal care (bathing, dressing, etc.)
- Three meals prepared daily
- 24/7 caregiver staff
- Laundry and Housekeeping
- Daily medication management
- Social Activities
- Limited Medical Staff
Pricing and costs for assisted living vary based on the type of care required, amenities and the configuration of the room (Studio vs 1-bedroom vs shared room). The key to making the best housing choice for your loved one is to match your level of care, health, lifestyle and financial needs with a local facility. While assisted living facilities may offer similar services and appear the same, they are not all created equal. It’s important to that you focus on their ability to address the specific, immediate needs of your loved one, and have a plan going forward into the future.
Get A Head Start
It’s always a good idea to get a head start and have the conversation about what the future holds sooner, rather than later. Do it while your loved one is still in good physical and mental health to avoid legal complications down the road. Look for some of the evidence they may be struggling, as covered in our blog article entitled, “The Silent Cry for Help”. It may not be time to move in to assisted living. it may just be time to consider independent living or other options in helping your loved one with day-to-day living. Either way, having a plan and getting them used to the idea of what may lie ahead, will make it easier to talk about when the time actually comes.
Call us today at 480-717-9868 for more information on how we can help you.
Our personal, professional service is always FREE* to families and their loved ones. Call today to put our knowledge and experience to work for you. We will educate, inform and personally take you by the hand to show you the local marketplace and help you navigate and negotiate Assisted Living, Independent Living and Memory Care in Arizona.
*The State licensed Assisted Living Facilities in Arizona compensate us for the educational service we provide. You will never be billed for our services.
During the 8 years that I have been in the business of helping the elderly relocate to assisted living in the Valley, I have noticed some consistent signs and symptoms that indicate it’s time to have ‘the talk’. My goal is to educate, inform and support families, so they can avoid a fear based rejection of the obvious signs and symptoms that it’s likely time to reach out for help.
Look for strange behavior, such as not knowing who you are, how to tie their shoes or unable to decide what clothes to wear, based on the time of year or current weather conditions. Perhaps you notice your loved one wears the same dirty clothes and/or they are not taking a shower regularly. A sure-fire sign that additional help may be needed is when the laundry, cleaning the house and bathing has become too burdensome or physically challenging for them.
While we are all a little forgetful, a consistent form of forgetfulness could be an indication of a bigger problem. If your loved one is not taking medications in a timely fashion, forgetting to take them or not remembering if they took them ‘today’ or not, this should be an indication to you that they need more help in their daily living routine.
Things like depressed mood, downtrodden, sluggishness, feeling isolated or alone is a big psychological factor in the aging process. Don’t expect them to come out and tell you these things openly. You need to be proactive and alert.
Be on the lookout and take action quickly if you observe your loved one:
- Losing a lot of weight
- Having trouble preparing meals
- Not running errands or keeping up with the mail
- Missing scheduled medications
- Not eating well or having spoiled food around
They could have had a few minor falls since your last visit. Usually, this is due to a loss of balance or general weakness from dehydration or even malnutrition. Is their skin integrity deteriorating? Are they bruised or even bruising easily when they bump their arms or hands on something? Watch as they walk across the floor from room-to-room. Does it look safe? Do you feel ‘nervous’ about what you are witnessing? It’s time to start talking about options.
No one wants to be a burden to another, so be prepared for a response that attempts to explain things away, or make excuses for all the obvious things you are witnessing. Be gentle, but honest and get help from outside sources if you can’t get through to them. Sometimes they just can’t hear it from a spouse, child or other family member, and a 3rd party professional may be able to open their eyes.
Paying attention and looking out for these signs can help you avoid that one ‘Event’ that lands them in a hospital with a severe condition. Don’t turn a blind eye to the obvious signs and symptoms of a loved one in need.
Reach out to us here at VIP Senior Placement to help you identify a safer environment for your loved one. We understand the challenges associated with this process and act as an advocate with free help and assistance. Our services are completely free and will reduce the amount of stress, frustration and fear of this important life-changing decision so you can move your loved one with confidence and peace of mind. Call today for a no-obligation consultation.